[Tommy Shaw]

I suppose we all view our own 'peculiarities' as big deals. From a guy's perspective, if a guy you meet is really a nice guy, a man of any character, then the shakey hands, nerve issue, etc. will be a topic of conversation at some point, but it just will not be a major issue. Mention it at some point, maybe if you do a little spill, or if you notice someone looking. It is a detail about you; acknowledge it and move on. If a guy cannot deal with such minor things, he will not be worthy of your time and affections. But get out there and find him. Someone is lonely tonight because he has not yet had the luck to meet you. New York City - how can you not enjoy it all?

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Name : Tommy Shaw, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 55, City : Huxley, State : IA Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, 

[Tommy Shaw]

The best way to ask is, 'Hello, my name is Dustin, could we get together for...' blah blah blah. Socially, it may be a bit like tall girl-short boy, but I say you have to ask. She may think you're a hottie, an interesting man, or a dumb kid. Present your best as you would with any woman, be honest and know that, as with most women, you could be disappointed. They may have a social status or financial "minimum" required, but if she doesn't charge for asking, you've lost no more than when you ask any other woman. Just think Demi Moore and Ashton whatever. Wow. The mind boggles at lost opportunities when we surrender to perceptions of social boundaries.

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[Tommy Shaw]

I have been around, and yet I am still surprised at the internal friction within the 'races.' On Kristina's note that there's 'a shortage of available black men,' and that 'darker-skinned women are least desired' ouch! I hope not everyone believes that! If so, why is it so difficult, then, for a white guy attracted to a black woman to get a chance at dating and romance? Not every white dude is a hillbilly redneck and a bigot. Although we may be cautious and fearful of a serious ass-whoopin (personal experience here), and not ignorant of the additional stresses for inter-racial couples, some of US are available and include black women in our dreams - please tell me why we don't seem to be allowed close as 'men'? I guess I know of Swede's who would NEVER date an Italian or... well, what is UP, people?!

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[Tommy Shaw]

I beleve it is worse than just fuzzy thinking. It is like after the hostages were taken in Iran. Fear, anger, frustration all combine to make people strike out in resentment and ignorance. Just who IS 'the enemy' and to whom? The ethnocentric rigidity of so many people on all sides just leads to abuses of power, extemist positions acting out with reactions to other reactions to an earlier actions... how can we stop this cycle? How can so many people be so easily misled by hateful or illogical propaganda? (How did it work in Germany in the 30's?) I fear that the gulf between cultures, classes, religions, all people is getting deeper and wider. MANY Americans are just sick at heart over the current (and many past) actions and policies that led to this strife, but they can neither understand the use of terrorism, nor an elective war. In fear they stand together for lack of another safe option. Fear rules. I beg the world, help us find a sustainable way to create a peace without any side having to surrender it's identity and it's soul.

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