[Makia]

I agree with Nathan. I also like rock, country, bluegrass, classical and various types of music that black people aren't supposed to. However, I am in a duo with an acoustic guitarist, and we're doing mainly '70s rock and some country type stuff. I'm both looking forward to and somewhat nervous about public performances. People are going to look up when I start singing the Beatles, CCR and Alison Krause. But, I did the same thing at karaoke, and most people were surprised but liked it. Some black people would come up to me and say, 'I don't normally like country music, but I like that (country) song you sang.' Just gotta do what we like!

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[Makia]

I'm black and have also noticed that many blacks seem very afraid of animals in general. I think it's because many dogs owned are typically watchdogs, and actually are mean. So many blacks are fearful of dogs because the dogs they see are mean, and they fear that all dogs are mean.

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[Makia]

I am not a gay man. I am a woman who had sex many times with a man who later realized he was gay. The first thing to understand is that the 'closet gay' often does not realize he is gay at the time of the heterosexual encounter. If he does, he may be in denial, because it is a difficult thing to accept in oneself (at least initially). My guy said he enjoyed the sex, and being a virgin, he was nervous because he hadn't had sex before. So, yes, he was concerned about his ability to perform. Being gay is not always an on or off thing; there are degrees of it, like a light that can be dimmed or brightened. Many men can be aroused by sex, with pretty much any partner. However, my guy was not emotionally, and to some degree, physically, satisfied by heterosexual sex, and eventually had to accept that he was really aroused by men.

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[Makia]

There are many reasons for the black single parent phenomenon, but I will try to briefly explain some of them. Because of the history of racism, as well as male behavior of all races, many black men do not want to marry at a young age, or at all. They want to move from woman to woman. The women know this, and hesitate to want to marry them; in any case, sometimes the women are also cynical about a marriage lasting, and don't want to be tied to a man who they don't love and who doesn't love them. Birth control is not 100 percent effective, even if used consistently, which is often not the case. Black women do have abortions, but due to a more traditional Christian upbringing, they may be against that option. Also, family is very important in the black community, and a child born of an 'unwed mother' is not likely to be shunned, because this child is valued and loved as a family member. All of these factors and more result in more single parents among blacks.

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[Makia]

I have heard of such matches working, but not for me. I, too, have found that men who earn a lot less than I sometimes can't afford to pay their way to some events, especially if they have a lot of bills or are paying child support out of incomes under $25,000. (Once I went out with a guy who earned about $11,000 per year.) If I pay their way, it throws the balance of power off (one of us may feel like I am the 'man' or the leader), and I know that they really can't afford to treat me, which would be nice sometimes. Others are jealous of my income and master's degree, especially if they have only a high school diploma. At times, it makes me or them uncomfortable, and I feel I should maybe downplay my accomplishments, which of course is wrong. It creates extra tension in the interactions.

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[Makia]

I, too, am turned on by stories and photos of men having sex with men. It seems to me that it is taboo because whatever does not turn on straight men is considered 'wrong,' so women are not supposed to be turned on by this. I would think more women would like this because there are two MEN to watch. And for once, we're not the one being penetrated! I don't consider it a 'fetish' because as far as I'm concerned, sex is sex. It's just a fantasy, just like dressing up in a French maid outfit is a fantasy.

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[Makia]

It's a mispronunciation by people who either don't know or don't care to say it the right way. I have heard many Black people say 'axed', as well as 'libary' instead of 'library', 'bag up' instead of 'back up', and 'light-skinnded' instead of 'light-skinned', and numerous others. I've even heard 'Janjuary' for 'January'! It gets on my nerves, but I don't criticize. Other races have plenty of words they say wrong, too, though, because of education, foreign accents, regional dialects, and lazy English.

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[Makia]

Most blacks and other people of color are not very familiar with political parties other than Democrat or Republican. There is a long tradition of Black people voting Democrat, and so that is the norm. I guess we are hopeful that the next time will be different and we won't be let down again by Democrats, or that it doesn't matter who is in power, since we'll still get the shaft. Also, do parties other than Dems come to the Black communities to campaign?

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