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- The media is run by people, and as one poster noted, all people have biases. We try to minimize them, we try to be fair, but nonetheless, what you think people are 'interested' in hearing is going to be colored by your biases. Journalists can't cover every single story that goes on. So you choose some things, and let others die. Congratulations on trying to be as fair as possible. We need more like you.
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Name : Kerry, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Wiccan, Age : 31, City : Ventura, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Stage Worker, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I'd have to agree with the poster who said you just kind of get used to it. I worked in nursing homes for three years, and things happen. It's like she said: you have an empathy and sympathy for the person experiencing it, and then start calculating what you need to do about it.User Detail :
Name : Kerry, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Wiccan, Age : 31, City : Ventura, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Stage Worker, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Many of us truly did not know who we are. We dated straights, of the 'proper' gender, and many of us got married and had kids, only to find out later in life that we are in fact gay. Revealing onself to your spouse is a heart-wrenching thing. The women I know have struggled for months, years, to decide if and when they should tell their husbands. They fear the 'automatic' end of their marriage if they tell him. Which means they live in hell, because there is a distance between them, because a large portion of her needs are simply not being met. Some of us have worked out arrangements within our marriages; many of us have been forced out of marriages; many of us have left marriages. The usual expectation is that once someone comes out, the marriage is just plain over. Never mind the feelings of the couple involved, everyone just expects it to end. It isn't that we justify it, it's something that just happens. I think most of the women I know would rather have found out when they were young, so they could avoid dragging a husband and kids through this change. Some of us did know, and tried to pretend we didn't. They tried to do the expected thing, get married, have kids, and now 20 years later, are finding out it didn't work- they are still pining for that woman's touch.User Detail :
Name : Kerry, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Wiccan, Age : 31, City : Ventura, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Stage Worker, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,This is actually quite common; I think it's a response so she can accomodate being penetrated more easily. As to why she doesn't feel it? The inside of the vagina is not actually all that sensitive... most of the nerves are at the opening. Not that it's 'deadspace' but it's just less sensitive.User Detail :
Name : Kerry, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Wiccan, Age : 31, City : Ventura, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Stage Worker, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I don't like the gay-only discriminatory policies. Like one poster said, it's sure not going to help anything. Ok, yes, people ought to be aware it's a gay club, but that's as far as I'd take it. Gay people do have straight friends that hang out with them, and go dancing with them, and it shouldn't be anybody's business about that. If a straight person goes to a gay club, they ought to know where they are going, not to be blindsided by it, but if they are friendly to us, who cares? It's not like people wear 'straight' branded on their foreheads, it's not like you can tell by looking at someone. And being gay in the presence of a straight person is not intrinsically harmful.User Detail :
Name : Kerry, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Wiccan, Age : 31, City : Ventura, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Stage Worker, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,As a women who sees women, I have found a pretty positive reaction. The straight women don't want me picking up on them, but why would I waste my time? They are better suited to be friends to me.User Detail :
Name : Kerry, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Wiccan, Age : 31, City : Ventura, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Stage Worker, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I know a lot about this subject... I am part of an email list for lesbians married to men. Women who are primarily or only attracted to women, which is why we label ourselves lesbians, but who are married to men for various reasons. Some spouses handle it well, others do not. Some marriages stay together, like mine, others do not. The usual expectation is that 'all' of them will end, but not all of us would like to leave our marriages. I actually care a great deal for my husband. I don't know that I'd do it again tomorrow if he went away, but for this one male, I am happy.User Detail :
Name : Kerry, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Wiccan, Age : 31, City : Ventura, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Stage Worker, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,There's no way I'd be able to function, physically, without some kind of lunch break. I have blood sugar issues. I can manage a couple of hours, but 10 hours? No way. Nor am I likely to put up with that.User Detail :
Name : Kerry, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Wiccan, Age : 31, City : Ventura, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Stage Worker, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think it's hard for people who are straight to remember that others are not. Sometimes anyway; I know some people are marvelously sensitive to others' feelings. It's not something they've experienced, so they don't understand. And they forget. But I sure know what you mean!User Detail :
Name : Kerry, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Wiccan, Age : 31, City : Ventura, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Stage Worker, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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