[Debbie J.]

Your brother is angry because your daughter's allergy reminds him of his own weakness and mortality, so he's taking out his rage on your daughter--and you as her protector! Unfortunately, more people seem to mistreat disabled people than respect them, in spite Jesus' parable of the sheep and the goats in the New Testament! (Matthew 25:31-46) Your only recourse: No more dinners at brother's house! And be sure to tell him why!

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Name : Debbie J., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : Lupus, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 61, City : Arizona City, State : AZ Country : United States, Occupation : Writer/Columnist, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class, 

[Debbie J.]

Disability often makes a person physically weak, so emotional damage from abuse because of their disability can cause more weakening of systems needed to fight disease or injury, and even slow or prevent any possible healing. As to why people treat disabled people, or anyone, badly, I wish I knew. Too many people treat others badly to build themselves up, but I just think about how low they must be in the first place to think that kind of behavior is good for them, or anyone.

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Name : Debbie J., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : Lupus, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 61, City : Arizona City, State : AZ Country : United States, Occupation : Writer/Columnist, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class, 

[Debbie J.]

Any relationship requires flexibility from both parties involved. Disability of one or both parties is merely another factor which people might or might not be willing to deal with. When each party deals intelligently with that undeniable factor, the relationship works. The refusal of either or both parties to deal with that reality is often the cause of abuse in a relationship. Three examples come to mind: 1) Able bodied partners often deny a disabled person something they need to deal with their condition, such as medical support; 2) a disabled partner sometimes does more than what is good for them to please a demanding able-bodied partner; and 3) a disabled partner can overuse the 'pity' factor to control an able-bodied partner, which is just as abusive as the other situations.

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Name : Debbie J., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : Lupus, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 61, City : Arizona City, State : AZ Country : United States, Occupation : Writer/Columnist, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class, 

[Debbie J.]

While science still can't explain why more women seem to have MS or many other autoimmune diseases (such as lupus, which I have), they do suspect hormones are a factor. I hope that helps.

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