Dare To Ask Talk And News About Our Differences By PHILLIP MILANO
Question
Why do people with the least income feel the need to buy the most expensive clothing?
Margaret, 27, New York
Replies
Look at what we all grow up with, especially urban youths. Their role models are usually professional sports players or rappers – really good examples of how to budget your money.
Nick, 23, Navarre, Ohio
My family was poor for most of my childhood, and all my clothes came from Wal-Mart or similar stores.
Manda, 20, Memphis, Tenn.
An advertisement comes on, it’s something flashy, hot and shows how much you’ll fit in. What does the lower class do? Crowd the stores and just about kill each other trying to get it. What does the upper class do? Call their broker and temporarily invest money in the company itself.
Joe, 23, Houston
We all need to treat ourselves from time to time. Sometimes it just feels good.
Rebecca, 33, New York
I try not to waste money on off-brand clothing because it falls apart very quickly. With my children’s clothes, especially if I buy Levis or Gap, the jeans last much longer, look brand-new longer and can be passed down to the next child and still look good.
Stephanie, 26, Texas
Expert says
Holy G-Unit, poor people like to look fine, too.
Reasons they might dare feel this way are three-fold, says Ruby K. Payne, Ph.D., an expert on the mindsets of economic classes and author of A Framework for Understanding Poverty.
# Buying nice things offers tangible proof they love themselves and their children.
“The middle class, on the other hand, shows this by spending money on development – tennis and swimming lessons, college, etc. The wealthy show it by providing the best connections – boarding schools, cotillions, etc.”
# It’s a form of entertainment, and it takes away some of the pain of poverty.
# It conveys status. While the wealthy value high-quality, fit and subtlety in brands of clothing, that’s not always so for the poor, who often don’t have other possessions such as big houses to show off.
Another hidden but important rule, said Payne: “In poverty, people are your possessions. If your car breaks down, you don’t call AAA, you call Uncle Ray. And if you make Uncle Ray too mad, he won’t come get you.”
This means when Uncle Ray needs money, you share yours with him – something the middle class doesn’t do much.
“What inevitably happens is that when you get money, you spend it right away because you know someone will be coming along to ask for it. Then you can say you don’t have any money, and they won’t get angry.”
That breeds impulsivity and lack of planning.
“This is generational poverty, the only rules people know. The middle class thinks it’s about lack of intelligence, but it’s about a different way of seeing the world. It’s about survival.”