Dare To Ask Talk And News About Our Differences By PHILLIP MILANO
Question
If Catholicism doesn’t allow sex without the possibility of conception, does that mean Catholic married couples can’t have sex after a vasectomy, menopause, etc.?
Jim, Chicago
Replies
Most Catholics look at the teaching of sex for procreation only as a joke. For that matter, vasectomies aren’t permitted under Catholic “law” because that’s a form of birth control — allowing sex without the possibility of pregnancy. To think millions of people quit having sex after the possibility of conception no longer exists is laughable.
Rachel, 36, Niagara-on-the-Lake, Ontario
The church accepts contraception as a side effect of certain medications used to treat other problems (birth control pills to control heavy periods or endometriosis) and recognizes the need for contraception in special situations such as medical problems. Even then, they ask that should conception occur, you be open to it. At least this is how the nun who did my premarital counseling explained it when I told her I needed to be on good contraception because should I conceive while on chemotherapy the baby would most likely have problems.
Susan, 37, Catholic, Chicago
A true Catholic man cannot have a vasectomy — it’s considered artificial birth control. Same story for female sterilization. Accepted Catholic birth control consists of abstinence (yeah, sure, in other words, having kids).
M. Maurer, 52, male, Poughkeepsie, N.Y.
Experts say
First, vasectomies: not allowed by the Catholic Church.
“When we render the sex act sterile, we are saying we don’t want to image the love of God,” said Christopher West, a leading expert on Catholic sex teachings. “We want the pleasure but not the responsibility. As soon as you sever sexual pleasure from the possibility of procreation, any means of sexual pleasure can be justified.”
So, do those with vasectomies have to remain celibate?
“If a believer truly repents for rendering the sex act sterile, the moral evil no longer exists,” said West, author of Good News About Sex and Marriage: Answers to Your Honest Questions About Catholic Teaching. “Also, vasectomies are reversible. If you can restore the physical evil of the vasectomy, you should.”
Next, contraception in general: “In a sexual act, you must leave the possibility of human life entirely in the hands of God. With contraception, you are taking the power of God into your own hands,” West said.
Finally, medical contraception: Intention is the key. According to the Catholic Church, the pill can be used for medical reasons but just not to avoid children. As far as a hysterectomy, getting one to remove a tumor would be OK because the main intent is not to sterilize the woman. (It’s also for this reason that a married couple having sex after menopause is not immoral: It isn’t the woman’s intent to become sterile in that case, either.)
However, in the example of Susan above, using contraception during chemotherapy is not treating a medical condition per se but merely prohibiting conception, which would be immoral, West said.