I am a white American. I am not at all irritated by mixed relationships. It has never even occurred to me to be so. I cannot speak for everyone, but among my white and non-white friends, peers, and collegues, I have never noticed any such trend or attitude.
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Name : Lisa, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 24, City : los Angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, I used to live in Delhi, India, and I observed a great deal of discrimination against the large population of African students living there, sometimes as overtly as being denied entrance to certain establishments. There are many reasons. Thousands of years ago, when the Indo-Aryans invaded India, caste was defined by the shade of one's skin. While that does not hold true today, there is still a stigma attached to being dark. The Indian aesthetic of beauty, particularly for women, is that of fair skin. British colonialism only served to entrench these attitudes. So does 'Baywatch.' The portrayal of African Americans in the media serves to enhance the stereotype that black people are dangerous and violent; frequently in India I was asked what America was doing about the 'black problem.' And I also think the stigma of Africa, one of the few places in the world economically worse off than India, is damaging in itself (nations steeped in poverty, like India, often carry a collective national shame). It is very possible that a first-generation Indian would bring these prejudices to the United States. But I think it can be safely said that second-generation Indo-Americans are free from these derogatory stereotypes.
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Name : Lisa, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 24, City : los Angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, Who said they do? I can think of a thousand examples of people who rethink their goals at a later age, usually as a result of a large transition; marriage, children, job change, mid-life crisis, disease, etc., a lot of things can make a person reevaluate their life and set a new path at any time.
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Name : Lisa, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 24, City : los Angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, I've had managers and bosses that gave bad, unsolicited advice. I've been micromanaged by idiots in the past. I've had meddling, irksome co-workers. And I'm white. Perhaps your previous white female co-workers were arrogant, covertly racist or simply bad managers. I don't think there is any cultural predisposition for bossiness or arrogance in white women. Some are; some aren't. Bad managers exist everywhere across all the borders of race, class, etc.
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Name : Lisa, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 24, City : los Angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, I was born and raised outside of Boston, and my perception is that Southie has been characterized by prejudices for a long time, and that these prejudices were exacerbated by busing in the 70s. I believe the racism comes from a long and complex history of Boston's roots. Boston is a very segregated city in general and has been touted for both its liberal attitudes and its rampant racism. I don't feel comfortable saying any more, because I wasn't raised in Southie specifically, and I'm upper middle-class, but I can recommend a very good book that may further your understanding titled Common Ground: A Turbulent Decade in the Lives of Three American Families, by Anthony Lukas. It specifically answers your question, 'maybe they have a history of being this way,' and it certainly furthered my understanding of the city of Boston.
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Name : Lisa, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 24, City : los Angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, I do believe that in an effort to protect my civil liberties, it's important to protect the civil liberties of all, even if I find it personally and morally repugnant. That said, while I protect the rights of the KKK to speak, I see no civil, moral, or personal reason to listen. It is not a right that we all be listened to, only that we are allowed to speak. Historically the KKK has been savage; as a contemporary group they are a racist, obsolete institution. To understand the roots of racism is one thing; to listen to the platform of the KKK is another. To understand WHY someone is a member of the klan is one thing; to listen to what they spout is another. And frankly, unlike most points of view, I see no logical, rational reasoning or any sense of rightness in the KKK platform. I don't think I'll learn anything from the politics of hate.
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Name : Lisa, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 24, City : los Angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, I respect teachers tremendously. My mother taught for 12 years in the Boston Public School System and that has always been a source of pride for me. I think the lack of respect from some arenas comes from 1) The low salary, 2) The low barriers to entry, i.e. it's not typically perceived as a competitive occupation that requires outstanding achievement or extensive training, 3) The fact that besides secretarial work and nursing, for many years it was the only job available to women, making it a second-rate career, and 4) The hours - in our culture, working long hours, long days, long years is perceived as a hallmark of character. That said, I know that teaching is challenging, hard, important work and that there are some wonderful, bright, inspiring teachers out there.
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Name : Lisa, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 24, City : los Angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, A lot of attractive women use their sex appeal to boost their confidence and to some degree it isn't all bad. A confident attractive woman has power, professionally and socially. That said, I think in a professional environment, the cons of revealing clothes tend to outweigh the pros of extra attention. Beautiful women, whether it's fair or not, tend to be taken less seriously; other women tend to resent them. And most importantly, when I'm making a presentation the last thing I want people thinking about is me naked! I want them to hear my words. So yes, she knows she's getting attention, probably cultivates it, but I think it's a bad decision with its own set of negative effects.
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Name : Lisa, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 24, City : los Angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, As a single young white female I definitely do not have a superiority complex or any inclination to preserve my race. I have dated interacially before and I'll probably do it again. Frankly, I thinks its just straight up fear. Unfamiliarity. I live in Los Angeles where people of difference are literally seperated by walls and freeways and there's a real sense of 'us and them' in respect to neighborhoods. Media culture heavily promotes stereotypes and emphasizes racial and language differences more than our similarities. I think the sub-culutural differences, whether they exist or not, are intimidating. It's fear of the unknown, the not understood. The same woman who advertises for a white male may actually date a man of color that she has had the opportunity to meet and understand. I think a white woman may be scared to date an ANONYMOUS non-white man because the perceived potential differences may be overwhelming. I am not commending this by any means, but I think its a reality. I think that human to human contact, real relationships, is by far the best way to eradicate stereotypes and fears. As a final note, I don't advertise in the personal ads because I think its kinda risky in general, regardless of race.
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Name : Lisa, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 24, City : los Angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, I was not aware that this double standard existed. Like it or not attraction and chemistry are based on looks. And everyone has different criteria regarding what they're attracted too. And the rules of attraction for both men and women, are unfair. As for the money deal, I think only superficial women date solely based on income. Or a six-pack for that matter. Among all single people, there's a good chunk of shallow money-seekers, looks-orientated daters. Don't date them if you don't like their style. I'm attracted to men based on their passion, character, maturity, humor, and yes, sorry, looks. And sometimes a high income or a 'successful' lifestyle make up this package; sometimes not. And often one strength (like character) outweighs one weakness (like looks.) I suspect mature men base their attraction on similar such criteria (I would go so far as to say looks matter more to men, but I don't want to get caught in assumptions.) I think the truth of the matter is, dating is unfair and hard and full of rejection and insecurity and the only way to be successful is to become the person you want to be and hope to meet someone who really likes that person. good luck.
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Name : Lisa, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 24, City : los Angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 
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