[Lea]

Never tell a girl that you wish she would fix something about herself that would alter her entire life. Gently suggesting braces or a new hairstyle is acceptable, suggesting that she get a boob job is not. Even if she has surgery she most likely will still not feel secure. She'll find something else 'wrong' with herself. You'll also face the risk of her feeling that A) you've been lying to her and she'll never trust you again when she asks for your opinion and B) that you want her to be someone else. I'm very small on top myself and I often wish I had larger ones, but then I look at my more well-endowed friends and I'm glad I'm not them. Try reminding her of all the benefits of being small. She can wear more types of clothing without looking like a tramp, excercising is easier without having to strap them down to keep them from flopping all over, not having to worry as much about popping out of something, etc. Also, just because she's small now doesn't mean that she always will be so. All of the women in my family have been small until they had children. Most of them went from an A or small B to a full C. Not that I'm suggesting that she have children for cosmetic reasons, I'm just saying that her body type may change in the years to come.

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Name : Lea, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 17, City : Malvern, State : PA Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Upper middle class, 

[Lea]

I'd consider myself upper middle class. It's not so much a class thing or a race thing as much as it is a cultural thing. We have a lot of migrant workers from Mexico and such where I'm from, and the men will stare at girls. I've heard that that's considered complimentary where they're from, but it's not acceptable up here. We get very creeped out when a man of any age, race or class looks at us for more than a second or so. We like being admired and checked out, but not for more than a second if we can see you doing it. We've been conditioned to think that all Hispanic men stare with impure thoughts to the point that when staying at a hotel or even being out anywhere, my parents won't let me walk around by myself or out of their sight if they've noticed a group of Hispanic men around. With black guys, it may be where the girl is from. Being from near Philly, a lot of the black guys here are into trying to seem gangsta or whatever. So if a guy is trying to dress like a rapper, we assume he's not going to be well-mannered or be interesting to talk to. I know it's unfair, but when a white, suburban, upper-middle class girl who lives near a city like Philadelphia sees a black guy who's not neatly dressed, she does assume he's up to no good or that he's homeless. It's a protection thing. We hear about stuff that happens in Philly every night on the evening news. It's like profiling people getting on an air plane right after 9/11. You know that it's not just Arab-looking men who are a threat and that not all Arab-looking men are a threat, but that's who seemed most likly to be a threat, so that's who made us nervous. It's the same with men. We don't want to be victims, and where we've been raised, that's usually who's doing the victimizing. If you're polite and well-mannered, then most girls won't have a problem chatting with you. There will always be those who do have a problem with guys of other races and social classes, but that's almost a fact of life. Dress neatly and act politely. Your clothes don't have to be high quality, just neat. Be comfortable with who you are, but realize where your target girl may be coming from and try to understand why she may be hesitant at first.

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Name : Lea, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 17, City : Malvern, State : PA Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Upper middle class, 

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