[Josh]

There are many people out there who 'cherish' their virginity and many of them are taught by their families, their schools and/or their religion to 'cherish' it. It has been my experience as well as that of most people I know, that when you are a young person, you can't wait to be an adult. Often this is because the rules imposed on children are very restrictive. Kids can't see certain movies, they aren't allowed in many public places and they are often placed as a kids table at gatherings. Part of becoming an adult is going through your 'coming of age' period, and when people use that expression, they mean, 'old enough to have sex.' The idea that your virginity is a special 'gift' that you are reserving for a special man that you will be with for the rest of your life is the height of naivete. Most people do not meet the person of their dreams in their teens, and statistically speaking, one of the major reasons for divorce is that people get married too young, before they are fully formed as people. The things that people want as teens are not the same things that people want when they are older. Sex can be a wonderful part of any relationship, but I can tell you that I would never marry a woman that I didn't have sex with first, and I doubt I would be interested in a girl who was a virgin simply because inexperience is not very attractive. There are lots of men who will be interested in you because you are a virgin, but that doesn't mean that they will love you forever, or cherish you, or value your gift of virginity as much as you value it. Implied in your question is the assertion that people who have sex before marriage do not cherish their virginity, and that's simply not the case. Just because you value something doesn't mean you have to hold on to it forever. If you liked a sandwich very much, you wouldn't make it better by waiting 2 years to eat it, would you? Virginity carries some currency now, but a 25-year-old virgin is not going to find a lot of guys who are interested because given a choice between a woman with experience, who knows what she wants, and a naive virgin with notions that she's saving it for someone special, most guys will pick experience. I know I would.

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Name : Josh, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : New York City, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Writer, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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