[A-virgin-for-now]

I'll try to answer your question both in the broader sense and from my own point of view. I think a lot of teens do still cherish their virginity. I certainly do and I'm not religious at all. I do not, however, believe that it is necessary to wait until marriage for sex. I will wait until I find someone that I trust and care about, someone who will be willing to laugh with me when I am unsure and ask dumb questions, someone who appreciates what I am giving them, and someone who will respect me and be safe. I think that sexual compatibility is a very important part of a functional marriage and I will definitely have sex with the guy before I marry him. What if he's into stuff I'm not? What if he can't satisfy me? Sexual incompatibility results in stress and can break a marriage. You ask, why would someone want to lose it so fast to someone their not guaranteed to be with? You're never guaranteed to be with anyone. Some people think of sex as fun, not just as a life changing romantic surrender. Though I personally think you should be able to do both. I think that you're speaking from a faith-based perspective and I think that is unfair to judge others based on your own moral criteria. Now I'm not saying that I approve of sleeping around (because I don't), but I definitely see nothing wrong with having a few sexual partners over a lifetime. I think a big problem today is that the media targets young people and tells them that it is okay to have sex with anyone and everyone. Granted, I think people should be smart enough to make they're own decisions, but it does happen that a lot of people are teased and swayed by the provocative images they see on tv. I have known plenty of virgins who confused lust with love because they've never experienced either. My friend got married at 19 so that she could have sex. Sex should never be an excuse for marriage and I've seen that a fair amount with people who are sexually frustrated and believe that the only solution is to get married. Anyway, I say stick to your beliefs whatever they may be, but try not to be so judgemental when it comes to other people 'losing it' so long as they are smart about it. I say if you lose your virginity in a caring and fun relationship, then it is well worth it.

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Name : A-virgin-for-now, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Not Religious, Age : 19, City : La Jolla, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Upper class, 

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