[Andrew]

My older son goes to kindergarten with a girl across the street who is the daughter of Korean immigrants. They work late often and my son and this girl are good friends, so she often spends the afternoon at our house. The girl's mother seems really apologetic about this and lately has been buying gifts for our son, even though he loves to play with her. It's good for us, too, so the presents are totally unnecessary. Would we be insulting the parents if we said we didn't need or want these gifts?

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Name : Andrew, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Huntington, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Reporter, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[william24299]

Perhaps thank them, tell them that the gifts are appreciated but not necessary. If the gifts continue to come, and they can afford it, don't worry about it. Just say 'thank you'.

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[Elizabeth-Baker]

Obviously if both parents of the littl girl are working, they need the income and should not be spending it on presents they might not can afford. Why don't you explain to the mother how much your son enjoys her company and that you are glad for him to have such a good friend he enjoys playing with. Tell her that altho the gifts are a nice gesture, that you would prefer if she feels the need to 'buy something' why doesn't she buy something that the two children can play with together.

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[Calvin]

I learned in school that it's impolite to turn down offers from Asians. It's somewhat true. But do what you would do with any rational people: Give them a good reason. Say something like, "We don't want to spoil our kid." Their buying gifts for your kid probably has more to do with guilt than honor anyway.

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Name : Calvin, Gender : M, Race : Asian, Religion : Presbyterian, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, 

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