Oh sweety! In this world there are different 'rules' that men and women have to live by. You are correct in your observation. It can only be explained as I have stated. No it isnt fair, however, it is the way it is. Imagine a mother walking out on her family as so many men do. Neither is right, however, what do you think the view of the walking mom would be in comparison to the walking dad? How about a stay at home dad and a working mom rather than a stay at home mom and a working dad? You see there are many different rules that apply to woman that do not apply to men and the other way around. Do not live to the beat of others. Live to your own heartbeat.
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Name : Judy27005, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 37, City : Mountain City, State : TN Country : United States, Occupation : Office Administration/Unemployed, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower class, This is a Gender role. Regardless of wether you are born as boy or girl people have an expectation of how you will act and what you will value. These expecations are treated like rules that people don't feel strongly enough to enforce as laws. In the past several decades traditional gender roles have started to blur and now the reasoning for all of the rules aren't nearly as clear as they used to be. In the end I think people expect women to value their virginity and not sex and men are expected to value sex. If you're really interested in the roots of where this came from you can do some research on Victorian era society, if you just want to know why you feel pressure to fit into a certain role it just because that's how people feel best organizing society. If you want to be promiscous then just accept that some people will want to dole out some sort of punishment for it like name calling, or not wanting to be your friend, and decide if it's worth it to you. It also could be turned around and you could be a man who values your virginity and be in the same situation.
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Name : Steve27860, City : Seattle, State : WA Country : United States, Women were once commodities traded from man to man in what was essentially a business contract - that's still the case in many countries. Think about a traditional wedding - the boyfriend asks the father for the daughter's hand, the father "gives away" the daughter to the husband. It is still in our social subconscious that women's bodies somehow belong to men. That expectation never existed for men, so that makes them free to roam. In truth, a woman's body belongs to her just as much as a man's body belongs to him. As long as you don't betray your personal morals, you'll be fine. The 'Ho vs. Man' issue becomes less relevant as an adult because adults tend to be more mature about sexual relationships.
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Name : Laura26080, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 23, City : Brooklyn, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : media specialist - gov't, Education level : 4 Years of College, You are young but should already have noticed the hypocritical, double-standard gender gap. A word for the man who sleeps around is slut or bounder; another is cad. Sex is not the way to find out who loves you. It only tells you that they find you desirable. Giving them what they want will make them happy, but if you sleep around, you will wear the slut/whore label until someone notices we like sex, too! Wanting the best (physical, intellectual, nicest) man to make a child can drive a female to want sex with more than one partner, the same as wanting to spread their genes can motivate a male.
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Name : Dee W, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 49, City : Grand Rapids, State : MI Country : United States, Occupation : Sales, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class, Anyone who sleeps around indiscriminately is worthy of the title 'ho.' That's not to say that no one should have sex or that everyone should wait for marriage, but anyone who respects his or her body will be very selective in who they give it to. But to get to your question, my theory is that society has a double standard because women are supposed to be above promiscuity. There is an age-old notion that men have a natural urge to spread their seed as far as possible. Many people can't handle the idea that women are also sexual beings. As the number of sexual partners grows, men are often thought of as not being able to help themselves, while women (as the mothers, the nurturers and the 'gentle' sex) are supposed to know better. Although many won't admit it, and some haven't even thought about it, I think women are held not to a double standard but to a higher standard because we are supposed to have more self-control.
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Name : Megan, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 27, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Editor, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class, When I was 20, I had a friend who had slept with 21 women. I called him a slut, and he agreed (not proudly) that he had been. He envied the fact that I had ended up waiting until I was 19 and deeply in love to have sex for the first time.
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Name : Patrick, City : Birmingham, State : AL Country : United States, For hundreds (probably even thousands) of years, women were expected to be 'pure' when entering marraige. The reason for this was mainly that males were more possessive of females and considered them property. Women were and are expected to be completely devoted to their husbands, but the men don't have to return the favor because they have different 'needs.' An additional reason for men preferring purity in women may also have been that they don't want to be compared to their old partners. So all these small-minded stances from the past explain why we still have these sexist opinions.
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Name : Kim26356, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 19, City : Bakersfield, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : varies, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class, This is a post I saw and just had to respond. A lot of girls get the impression that being 'the man' as you say means being sexually active, but it's much more to it than that. It's the psychological stand points between the man and the woman. I think most girls get this same idea you have from the stereotype that guys are just 'insensititve' and are all cheaters and what not. If I'm sexually active but am being cheated on at the same time, I'm not the man, I'm the ho. Also, since your a female, you MUST go about it a certain way. If you make it clear in public that your a sex-craving slut, then it becomes clear. But if you have class and keep the whole freaky sex thing behind closed doors, then theres nothing slutty about it.
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Name : Nick32162, Gender : M, City : Dallas, State : TX Country : United States, I believe men have as much right to the title of 'whore' as women do. After all, don't we live in a society where our job descriptions are no longer defined by gender? Me and my friends refer to such men as 'whores, hos or skanks,' and I believe other women should as well.
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Name : Amanad, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Hebrew Roots, Age : 20, City : Brandon, State : FL Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, There is another reason that, historically, it was considered more important for a woman to be virginal that for a man to be: The man needed to be sure that his children, especially his sons/heirs, were actually *his*. If a woman slept around, there was no way to know if the kids are his; if the man slept around and the woman got pregnant, it was her husband's problem, not her partner's. Now that women can own property and men can get DNA tests, this argument really shouldnt be relevant anymore.
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Name : Laura G, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Methodist, Age : 22, City : Philadelphia, State : PA Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : 4 Years of College, I never see this arguement about why men are 'the man' and women are 'hoes' Sex is ultimately the woman's decision. Otherwise, it's rape Besides,if it was ultimately the man's decision, how many other things would get done on this planet
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Name : Eric, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 28, City : Heidelberg, State : NA Country : Germany, Occupation : Military, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class, 
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