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- I'm black but feel I should have been born white. Why is it OK for someone to feel as if they should have been born a different gender, but not a different race? What's the difference? Since we have gender reassignment (sex change) surgery, why can't we also have surgery to change our race? If people can't change their race, they also shouldn't be allowed to change their gender.
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Name : BlackNoMore, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, City : n/a, State : AR Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,You can change your skin color, but your race is determined by your parents. Michael Jackson's skin color changed, but he's still considered to African American. Why do you want to change color so badly? There's nothing wrong with being black. Maybe it's just the part of the country you live in that makes you feel the way you do. Don't let other people convince you that you're any less. Here in Detroit, all our mayors for the last 40 years have been black. Be proud of who you are.User Detail :
Name : Taz27451, Gender : M, Age : 33, City : Detroit, State : MI Country : United States,Our identity is partly defined by our gender and our race. I am a Caucasian male, but that is not the most important part of my identity. Being a Christian is far more important to me. But if you don't want to go there, we have many choices to make in our lives. We can choose a career, a lifestyle, our health (by choosing a healthy lifestyle), our degree of physical fitness, our level of education, where to live and a host of other factors. If we choose one area and make it our fixation, then we make ourselves miserable.User Detail :
Name : A-Urbonas23969, City : Edmonton, Alberta, State : NA Country : Canada,All the skin lightener in the world won't change your heritage. It's who you are. Learn to change the things you can and accept the things you can't.User Detail :
Name : Keimo, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Age : 20, City : Milwaukee, State : WI Country : United States, Occupation : student, Social class : Middle class,For one, why white? You haven't explained what it is about white people that appeals to you. Second, if it's that you don't want your hobbies and interest to only relate to what most black people find interesting, then you only need to look within yourself to define what it is that makes you who you are and not what other black people feel you should be. If it's only a matter of skin color, then you are not happy with yourself. The surgery question is bizarre because there is no rule saying you cannot change your skin color. Look at Michael Jackson.User Detail :
Name : JP-Schumi, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 27, City : Sterling, State : VA Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,Are people telling you that you shouldn't do something because black people don't do it? It sounds more like your feelings are due to problems in society rather than your own problems. Racial identity is a social concept. But you are not responsible for other people's biggotry. I would suggest you accept that you look the way you look, and go out and feel free to ignore any rules you want about 'acting black.' If people won't accept you for doing that, are they really the sort of friends you want anyway?User Detail :
Name : Matt, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : Oxford, State : GA Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I don't know where to start. How would one go about chaging their race? If you feel you are 'white,' then become white. Is it your looks, behavior, attitude, what? Being a human being is what defines us. Yes, there are many differences between races, but it is mostly based on cultural and regional factors. As human beings, we all share the joys and pain of life. You were born to be exactly who you are. Cherish the gift of life that God has given you. Surely God did not make a mistake.Someone recently asked me if I ever thought about being 'white.' I thought about it for about two seconds and said, 'No, never crossed my mind.' However, I have thought that if I were to be born again, would I want to still be black? The answer is yes. Love yourself and you will find happiness.
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Name : Harvey21431, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 51, City : Los Angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Sales, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,I don't mean to be unsympathetic, but either this is a hoax or you're mentally unstable. Might I suggest a good therapist in lieu of changing your race? Geez, if you hate yourself this much, I can only imagine how you feel about other African Americans. You sound like a danger not only to yourself but to innocent folks who happen to like and love who they are. If this is real, get professional counseling. If it's a hoax, get a damn hobby.User Detail :
Name : Rhonda-P-Outlaw30011, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 42, City : Laurelton, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Rep, Education level : 2 Years of College,No matter what people say, black people are still looked down upon in society. In the media, white is beautiful and black is just so-so. This may be why you feel the way you do. Besides, Michael Jackson has bascially changed his race, and people think he's weird because of it.User Detail :
Name : Senta, City : Herndon, State : VA Country : United Kingdom,Feeling that you have been born the wrong gender often has a biological basis. Men and women are 'hard-wired' differently. What would be your reasons for wanting to change your race?To be more attractive? More successful? Funnier? Smarter? No race has the monopoly on any of those qualities.User Detail :
Name : Kimberla K, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Atheist, Age : 33, City : Brooklyn, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Technology, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Now this is the most intriguing question I think I've ever seen on Y? Forum. Please, give us some more insight into why you feel you were born the wrong color, and what, if anything, can realistically be done to change that circumstance (Michael Jackson notwithstanding).User Detail :
Name : ED25476, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Age : 48, City : Kansas City, State : MO Country : United States,Here's a loaded question. I question the idea of 'race.' I have met blond Latinos. People born in Latin American countries are Latin - even the blond ones. I have met black Cubans who get angry when they are referred to as 'African Americans' because they aren't American, and call themselves Latin. I have sat in front of someone on the bus saying, 'Dog, you a fool for axing me dat, yo. Course you can chill at my crib', but when they got off at their stop, I was surprised to see it was someone white. Historically, people were associated with their country (Othello was a Moor, not 'a black guy,' for example). Race is a relatively new concept. But specifically, what would you change? Your nose? Hair? Color of skin? Vernacular? Where you live? Turn the bass down in your car? Eat coleslaw instead of collards? What? 'Race' is very vague. But with a sex change, it's clear what you are changing. I know one man who often dresses as a woman, but even when he doesn't, you feel like you are with a woman. The energy is just different. So I think you are trying to justify your objections to sex change operations by comparing apples to lawnmowers.User Detail :
Name : Craig31907, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 41, City : Minneapolis, State : MN Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,You are who you are. It doesn't matter what color your skin is. It's not you who has the problem, it's the people around you who think the color of your skin should dictate how you act and speak. You could die your skin purple and you'd still be you. Don't focus on your race, focus on your soul.User Detail :
Name : Jamie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 28, City : Milwaukee, State : WI Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Not everyone likes their race, just like everyone doesn't like their gender. Why is it socially acceptable to want to change your gender but not your race? I feel as if I should have been born white. How is this self hatred or mental instability? Would you have felt differently if I said that I didn't like my gender, instead?User Detail :
Name : BlackNoMore23084, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, City : n/a, State : AR Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,Hello, I am working for a MTV documentary searching for individuals who feel out of place, and your story seems unique. The doc series is all about 'not fitting in' and the topics of passing and color alteration are unique to a multi-cultural experience. I would appreciate your thoughts and advice. Feel free to email me at mlt@mtvstaff.comUser Detail :
Name : Jonathan29088, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States,
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