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I have noticed that children and teens do not respect their parents. Everytime I go anywhere, I always see them degrading them or making them look or feel stupid. I was raised to respect my parents to the fullest extent – or else. Is this situation the parents’ fault, or is it just what society is coming to?
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Name : Luz Marquez, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : Paralyzed, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Catholic, Age : 20, City : New Lenox, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : server, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,teens feel disrespected by their parents most of the time, because they don’t understand them and at that age they want more freedom than they deserve. sometimes parents either don’t try to understand and just say ‘my way goes’ and sometimes the parents give the kids too much control.
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Name : teen, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 14, City : Notelling, State : MI, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,It starts at home. As parents, we (because I am the mother of a 2-year-old) set the tone for a few things. One of those things being respect. My mother and I may not be the best of friends like we once were, but I still respect her. My mother was not afraid to get on me if she thought I was getting out of line. And regardless of what society says or thinks, family comes first, and since mother/father is the family, then it would be in our best interest to remember that. After all, the Bible says ‘honor thy mother and father and thy days on earth will be lengthened…’ Too many times, from what I’ve seen, the family unit allows ‘outsiders’ to govern them and tell them that’s it’s OK to let your child do what they want and say what they want without any sense of recourse for their actions.
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Name : SoulSista, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 24, City : Windy City, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : supervisor at CSC, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower class,You think it’s all teens’ fault? Let me share a little story with you. I am 17. I make all A’s and B’s and love my parents to death. My mom is my best friend in the whole world and nothing will change that. But my dad calls his kids worthless and stupid and constantly yells at me and says I can’t do anything right. When we’re in public, we have our ‘happy faces’ on until dad can’t hold his temper anymore and starts nagging at me. Don’t blame the teen. You may have no idea what the child’s and parents’ situation is. I’m not saying it’s always the parents’ fault. But it takes two to tango. And it goes with the old saying: To get respect, give respect.
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Name : Anna, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 17, City : Memphis, State : TN, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Upper middle class,I know far too many teens who treat their parents as slaves, and the parents bow to their wishes. Children today do not seem to be effectivley disciplined and do not respond to the discipline they receive. My parents always ensured that I was respectful, even if I was not overly fond of the individual entitled to my respect. The situation seems to be largely caused by society’s lack of discipline (meaning order in this sense). We cannot keep in line because we are not even given a line to keep in. If parents don’t take matters into their own hands, there is no longer any support for them. Parenting is not easy, especially when multiple children are involved. Society no longer supports the family when the heads are in need of a much-deserved break.
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Name : J21187, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 14, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States,I would have to agree that there are more children who disrepect their parents. It starts with the parents. In today’s society the parents are the children. Since most parents do not hold up to their responsibilities, the kids grow up on their own. The are pushed on to their grandmother, etc… This is big problem today. This is why, I think, there are so many gangs and what have you. But, I do have to say there are parents who try to raise their children in a sort of normal home, providing them with clothes, shelter, food and teaching them about our Lord. And not all of those children grow up right. Sometimes, this is where drugs come into play. There is so much that happens to a child without the parent there to guide them. I do know that if a child is not taught respect, they will have none when they grow up. Therefore, most wind up in life without a life: imprisonment, abusive behavior or death. When you have children, treat them right, love them and teach them right from wrong. In the long run we as parents will be proud of our children and knowing in our hearts ‘ we did a great job.’ And we’ll smile when they have children and they have that same loving hand to guide their children with through life.
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Name : Christy S., Gender : F, Age : 37, City : Ruleville, State : MS, Country : United States,Correction: SOME teens do not respect their parents. These are generally the teenagers who were spoiled rotten their whole lives, whose parents bailed them out of detentions, bad grades and jail. Their parents never demanded respect, so they never got it. Personally, I have a great deal of respect for my parents, and have never thought much of the people who expect rides to the mall and money for new clothes but refuse to be seen in public with their parents.
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Name : NE25233, Gender : F, Age : 19, City : Binghamton, State : NY, Country : United States,I agree, a great deal of the children and teens these days do not respect the people that brought them into this world. Out of many possible explanations, one jumped out at me during an episode of a hit TV show. The character, a divorced single mother, explained that when it came to raising her daughter, it was just easier to ‘say yes.’ TV is not the most telling answer to social problems but this situation does prove an interesting point. How can we expect children to respect their parents when their parents cannot even respect each other? The number of marriages that end in divorce is astounding and only growing larger. It appears that you and I were both blessed with a household with two parents, but there are very many children and teens who do not have that luxury. And without the proper example, how can we expect children to respect people who cheat, fight, and argue about who’s getting the yacht?
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Name : Sallina H., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 21, City : Ann Arbor, State : MI, Country : United States, Occupation : Ph.D. student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,I have noticed this, too. I am 20 and still living with my parents until I get through college just because I have enough stuff going on without moving out. All I can say is I am very grateful for everything my parents give to me and when they say do something I do it. It makes me angry seeing other kids getting mad at their parents when they won’t buy them something or do something. They have jobs to support you so they might not have time, they put a roof over your head and food in your mouth. Guess that’s not enough for some kids though. I get a lot of what I want and you could say I’m spoiled, but that’s only because I respect my parents and do what they say. I think that if you live under your parents’ roof you should shut up and do what they say because they have a lot more experience than you do.
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Name : Steven, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 20, City : Memphis, State : TN, Country : United States, Occupation : College, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,I don’t respect my parents. And that is because not only have they not earned my respect, they have broken my trust and treated me badly. I don’t think respect should be freely given to parents. They are like anyone else and need to earn respect by being a good parent. Why should a bad parent be respected? And if someone doesn’t respect their parents do you think they’ll also say they have good parents? I think the problem is with parents, not children. Many parents seem to think they can treat their kids however they want and still be treated well by them. That makes no sense.
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Name : Christie32034, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Hindu, Age : 22, City : Tampa, State : FL, Country : United States, Social class : Lower middle class,I think that it is usually a communication barrier. In many of my experiences is seems that adults expect respect from their children, but do not show it to them in return. Many parents seem to demand the respect because they are the parents, end of subject. However, if the parents do not show the children respect, where will they learn it from? Also, teens are at a point in their life where they are discovering themselves, and many parents don’t realize they are also being discovered for the people they are as well. When the teens were younger mommy and daddy could do no wrong, but as they get older they see their parents as people too not just Mom and Dad. Usually this is a very hard time for both teens and parents. Also I do think that media and the people the kids hang out with will play a major role in how respectful children and teens are. Everyone should help in the effort to change this respect issue by setting good examples in everyday life.
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Name : B. Nicholls, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : non-religious, Age : 21, City : Porterville, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : full-time student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Part of the problem is that until The Cosby Show came along, we had whole generations raised on sitcoms where the kids were smarter than the adults. The parents were raised with that idea and now they let their kids get away with it. I have two sons and both answer adults with sir and ma’am and know better than to talk back. Of course they also live in Eastern Kentucky where it’s still safe to be a kid.
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Name : Danny Harbison, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Asatru, Age : 40, City : Atlanta, State : GA, Country : United States, Occupation : Teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,This changed sometime between when I was a kid and when I had kids! I was expected to do the dishes every night and help clean the house. Dad’s word was law followed by a smack if you didn’t toe the line. I had no say in how the household was run. By the time I had kids, they weren’t allowed to do the dishes or help around the house because it would traumatize them. We weren’t allowed to discipline them because a neighbor or teacher might report us for child abuse. Allowances were given with no expectation of any type of return. And the kids ruled the roost, controlling how money was used and generally having free rein. As a result we grew a generation of me, me, me people who care for nothing but themselves and cannot be depended on to do anything that does not involve a payoff for ‘them’. They can’t spell or add and subtract without a calculator. If they bother to get a job they are insulted when actually asked to work. They want expensive cars for graduating high school and drive like maniacs. These are the people who are starting to run our country – and it shows. Enron, the stock market, Congress and the Senate. Classic case of reaping what we sow.
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Name : Phyl E., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Pagan, Age : 63, City : San Antonio, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : retired, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,It’s just a cultural shift, mainly due to the media and advertising. We’re moving towards a culture that just glorifies youth more and more, so that being young means being cool and hip, while being old means being dated and out of touch. Youth just has higher status than age these days. Personally, I think it has to do with advertising. Having worked in an entertainment company that relied on advertising, I know firsthand that young people are the most desired targets for ads. That’s because they have less responsibilities, more disposable income, and are more likely to make impulse purchases. So the media ends up becoming saturated with ads that cater to young people. Young people, seeing everything catering to them, start believing all of it, and think they’re the ones in charge.
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Name : Ed, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Asian, Religion : Christian, Age : 26, City : Milpitas, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,In my experience working with recent Mexican immigrants, there are big cultural differences in how teens treat their parents. In Anglo culture, kids are expected to ‘individuate’, to separate from the family. Sometimes the easiest way to do this is to argue your way out (it’s easiest to separate from someone if you convince yourself they irritate you). For the Mexican families I see, kids are expected to show a lot more respect, which is useful in that case, because they are dedicated to the family after adolescence. Kids born here are torn between these two cultural expectations, so it may be a cultural thing. I remember reading something Socrates wrote 2,000 years ago, complaining about teens . . .
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Name : Ryan22314, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Buddhist, Age : 29, City : Santa Barbara, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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