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I’m 37 and white. She’s 31 and Chinese. I am divorced, and she’s never been married. She says she can’t marry me because I’m not Chinese. Is this true? She says she has to marry within her culture. Is this true also? Her family doesn’t even know me, and they hate me. I have a good job, but I don’t own a home. I can’t promise her the world, but I can promise her happiness.
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Name : Ronnie, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Baptist, City : San Jose, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : maintenance tech, Education level : Technical School,Her parents are probably immigrants. My experiece has been that immigrant parents usually want their children (especially daughters) to marry someone from their own country. She doesn’t have to marry a Chinese, but you can bet she’s under a lot of pressure to do so. She’s caught in the middle.
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Name : Mike, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 26, City : Orange County, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Self Employed, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Absolutely! I’m surprised you’re even asking, I thought everyone knew. I’m sure that you could probably give her all the happiness that she wants and deserves, but asian families take races very seriously. However, don’t think that her family hates you, that’s probably not the case, but they just don’t want their daughter to marry a non-chinese, that’s all. I’m korean, and I know for a fact that my parents would be devastated if I married a nonkorean (even if it was someone within the asian race, they still wouldn’t allow it). My father would probably disown me if I married a nonkorean, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t want me to be happy, but he’s very proud of his roots, and wants our culture, blood, and roots to be passed on for generations. This would be very hard if the child was mixed, especially considering the fact that the kid lives in a predominantly caucasian country such as the US. However, I’m not saying don’t pursue this relationship, but first find out if her father would disown his daughter if she married a non-Chinese, and if this is the case, then I would let her make the decision on whether her love for her devotion to her family is stronger than her love for you.
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Name : Anonymous23714, Gender : F, Race : Asian, Religion : Christian, City : Vancouver, State : NA, Country : Canada,
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