[Mike]

First, congratulations on having the courage to come out at such a young age. To this day I regret not coming out when I was a teen. I hurt a lot of people by not doing so – but that’s another story. I often hear teenagers downtown refering to each other as ‘faggot’ or ‘queer,’ and I am highly insulted by this. But I do have straight friends who jokingly call me ‘faggot’ on occasion, and it doesn’t bother me because I know they are, as you say, just playing around trying to get my goat. The decision is really up to you. If you feel insulted, tell him to stop, explaining that you have to face enough hate in the world because of your orientation and you don’t appreciate it coming from him. Ask him how he would feel if you called him some racially derogative name all the time. I have had friends who have taken it a little too far, and I have asked them to stop with the ‘faggot’ and ‘queer’ stuff. On the other hand, neither I nor any of my gay friends have issues about calling each other ‘faggot’ or ‘queer’. – much like some blacks seem to have no problem calling each other the dreaded ‘n’ word. When used between gays, the word ‘queer’ is somewhat a badge of honor. As in ‘I’m here, I’m queer, deal with it!’

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Name : Mike, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 42, City : Ben Lomand, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,