Jay31310
I suspect you’ve just been in contact with the wrong sorts of people, or, possibly, see rudeness where there is none because that is what you expect to see, given that you have this belief. An innocently intended action or comment can take on all kinds of hidden meaning if the listener assumes negative things about the speaker. That is, rudeness is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you expect someone to be impolite, everything they do, no matter how neutral, will have rude undertones. I don’t disagree with you about the chutzpah it would require to demand specific purchases of a date, but I seriously doubt that the only people out there who would have the gall to be that obnoxious are black women (and I personally would never dream of asking such a thing).