[Debbie J.]

Any relationship requires flexibility from both parties involved. Disability of one or both parties is merely another factor which people might or might not be willing to deal with. When each party deals intelligently with that undeniable factor, the relationship works. The refusal of either or both parties to deal with that reality is often the cause of abuse in a relationship. Three examples come to mind: 1) Able bodied partners often deny a disabled person something they need to deal with their condition, such as medical support; 2) a disabled partner sometimes does more than what is good for them to please a demanding able-bodied partner; and 3) a disabled partner can overuse the ‘pity’ factor to control an able-bodied partner, which is just as abusive as the other situations.

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Name : Debbie J., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : Lupus, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 61, City : Arizona City, State : AZ, Country : United States, Occupation : Writer/Columnist, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,