[Ben S.]

My view here does not derive from direct experience (luckily), but my impression is that those who are aggressive to lesbians and gay men are as a general rule not that comfortable with their own sexuality. In the case of men, there is also the need to affirm masculinity in front of other males and this can result in some aggressive acts. It was not surprising, for instance, to find that the killer of a gay man at a cruising spot in Sydney a couple of years ago had actually previously tried to work as a male prostitute ! Of course there are always some people who are bullies and enjoy the power- lesbians and gay men may present easy targets for them. Also, I often notice that some straight men seem more comfortable with overtly effeminate gays than with masculine gays like myself. Maybe they worry that if I’m masculine like them and I’m gay- then what does that say about their sexuality ? – or perhaps it’s a fear that if I’m masculine, I’m sexually dominant and therefore threatening ? Comments on this one would be interesting.

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Name : Ben S., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 31, City : sydney, State : NA, Country : Australia, Occupation : Public servant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,