[ItsMe]

You are both right, mostly… Now, I’ve done a bit more research and it looks like I can and should attend as long as someone else does the planning. I can read Psalms and Ecclesiates. I can and should say kaddish graveside. I should make sure that she is lowered into the ground and covered in earth. I can and should sit shiva. I plan to do all these things in what will, God willing, be a long time from now. I hope that my uncles will be sensitive to my plight and not demand a bunch of music (though mom has asked for a mass, which typically involves music and song) or other things that complicate my sitting shiva properly. FYI, I can understand your cousin not attending a intermarried wedding. My husband and I had to make a hard choice like that a few years back as well. Now their kids have a Jewish surname and wear crosses and are baptised and visit the easter bunny. I know that his family came from Shoah survivors and Torah scholars. He mocked their sacrifices and deaths for our faith in his intermarriage–but that is another thread entirely.

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Name : ItsMe, Gender : Female, Religion : Jewish, City : DFW, State : TX, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,