March 19, 2006 at 12:00 am #19695
I think a lot of upper-middle-class suburban white girls are rather insulated -- they have not had a lot of experience being around young men who aren't also upper middle class and white. So it's entirely possible they are nervous -- the only people they're familiar with who talk the way you might talk, or walk the way you might walk, or move the way you might move, are movie characters...and rarely the hero of the movie. You know how girls tend to marry someone just like Dad? Well, Daddy is a stockbroker. His daughters are used to the speech, values, etc., of the sons of the stockbrokers and attorneys. By values, I'm not referring to whether someone is moral or not, but just that: values -- what does the person find a valuable use of time, energy, or finances. A telling question is something like: If you were given a month off of work, and an extra paycheck, what would you do with that time and money? Kids who grew up with Daddy who would put the money in the college trust fund and then spend the month skiing often don't feel comfortable with someone who would use the money to buy a dirt bike and then spend a month racing it.